Porn in the Bedroom - Yes or No?

Pornography has largely been a male-centric domain, with both print and video formats catering almost exclusively to men's fantasies. Perhaps it is for that reason that many men have had the experience of being caught watching porn with their pants down by their partners. Of course, blaming the production companies for creating terrible movies that 'she would never have liked' might only go a small way in calming her anger.

A study conducted in 2013 found that women whose partners were open about their use of pornography enjoyed healthier relationships. Those who suspected that their partners were using pornography but hiding it experienced more distress and dissatisfaction with their relationships.watching-porn-together

The entire sub-industry of 'couples’ porn' has emerged to cater to men and women who would like to share the experience. Of course, there are no limitations aside from those your partner and you set for yourselves - if you can agree that the standard porn production is welcome in your bedroom, that's absolutely fine.

Aside from the targeted couples' films, How-To videos also enjoy success with couples looking to spice up action with a performance in the bedroom. Perhaps more acceptable to the women who might be embarrassed at the notion of watching porn, these are marketed as being 'informative' rather than simply sensual.

It is very important to balance the pleasure that you might obtain from a particular video and the impact it may have on your partner. Pornography, almost by definition is created using actors and actresses chosen for their physical attractiveness; your partner may be negatively affected by the realization that a stranger on the screen turns you on more that he or she does.

The logic behind this is explained by how men and women perceive porn. Research reveals that when men watch heterosexual porn, they substitute the male actor with themselves, creating a fantasy in which that male does not exist and they are interacting with the female performer. By contrast, women understandably imagine themselves as the female performer.

The easy availability of porn has changed our outlook on sex, titillation and our bedroom behavior. Nearly 25% of respondents, both male and female, admit that it has opened new sexual horizons for them. Over a fifth say that they are better able to vocalize their desires after watching porn.

The conclusion is that the togetherness of the experience is the most crucial factor. Numerous studies indicate that when shared, porn can bring a couple together, and when watched in isolation, tear them apart.